I finally snapped out of my funk last night. I ended up taking a mental health afternoon yesterday after my class. I was too out of it and really just wanted to go home. Later on in the day the bf came over and we went to this wine place about a mile from my apartment where he was hosting a Young Adult wine tasting event for our church group. We had some wine and got to talk (we were there a few hours early to save space for our group) We talked about the holiday stuff and how things might work in the future. We came up with several scenarios, the first was planning a specific time to do our Thanksgiving with his parents, like, the weekend before. And that will be ours. And at least for Christmas, his parents could totally come and join in my family's celebration, because as the bf pointed out, it's WAY easier for the two of them to travel and join us than for my entire family to go somewhere. That will work with Christmas up at my grandparents house, but for other holidays it might be difficult just in terms of space because my Aunt's and Uncle's houses aren't super big. My mom DID invite his parents up for Thanksgiving since it's at my house, but they aren't going to come this time. They are planning to go over to the bf's paternal grandparents for a bit. I feel MUCH better about everything now. The bf's mom was also having a bad night when this happened, so it got blown up a little bigger than it actually was. (and to reiterate, I REALLY like his parents, they're wonderful and nice)
Thank you all so much for your support and words of encouragement, you really made me feel better about everything. I hope you all have wonderful weekends!